Real Life: On The Bright Side

Benjamin Franklin said, “Certainty? In this world nothing is certain but death and taxes.” We will all die and most of us don’t know when it is going to happen. Being married to the military doesn’t mean I sit and think constantly that my husband will die at any moment, but realistically I know that the odds are higher and the insurance premiums more costly.

So when he’s not at home, he goes to war zones and people shoot at him, but I tend not to focus on that aspect of the separation. I ignore it. I watch the news less and I bury myself in my life. Looking on the bright side, there are advantages of being married to a man, who is often not a home for long periods of time:

1.) I lose weight because I eat less. I don’t cook an evening meal. I feed the kids early and I have soup or toast for tea.

2.) The house is tidier

3.) Less washing

4.) I get to do what I want without having to factor his opinion into it

5.) I get to spend time with all the girlfriends he doesn’t like and who I want when I want

6.) I can watch whatever I want on the TV

7.) I can do whatever I want

8.) I still get to spend his money

9.) I miss him

10.) We have passionate re-united sex

There are blue days too. Jonah days but that’s for another blog, on another day. Today, I was giving you the plus side.



  1. jfb57 May 23, 2010 Reply

    …& it’s a really positive plus side! Well done you for writing this. I will remind you of it if you need a cheer up!

    • Author

      Yes, that’s a good idea. Dark days come when I am shouldering the responsibility of shared burdens alone.

  2. Vegemitevix May 23, 2010 Reply

    Awww they are good sides – what about having the bed all to yourself! And being able to focus on your writing and work. Not having to do ladygarden maintenance? Purposefully slobbing around if you want to! Umm..

    oh and yes, the ‘I’ve missed you so much’ sex is out of this world! ;-p

    • Author

      Absolutely! I missed those key points! There are more. Men don’t like to hear that you can manage without them sometimes. They like to be needed. Hubby is needed – it’s just that I don’t want this to be a poor me blog.

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